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Over turning troubled well-practiced behavior is hard for your teen; it’s hard for any one. Now that the pain form their last trouble is over – and they have gotten comfortable again… it’s right back to their low feelings of self worth, disconnected and unattached mentality coupled with their well-rehearsed behaviors. You can remind them of how much money it cost you to bail them out, how awful of a human being you think they are or even attempt to use physical punishment if you so wish… but a person persuaded against their will is of the same persuasion still. I say to you like I say to my marathon training clients – don’t think about the miles you’ve already covered – don’t think about the miles ahead – think about what you’re doing right here, right now. One day at a time.. if need be, one minute at a time.
Live with intent!
Posted: January 17, 2012 | Category:
Parents
Parents:
It will take more then just words to help yr teen son ‘change’ his abusive behavior. He doesn’t even change his underwear without prompt, what makes you think he will change his abusive/addictive/problematic behavior. For a real change, encourage and move him toward some form of counseling/therapy/support to help fight his internal madness. Find and believe in a higher power to surrender his will (right now he is surrendering to drugs/$/women/drama/etc. A change in activities and company – the power of association is huge! Align those things with his determination to change and it can and WILL happen.
Parent with Intent!
Posted: January 12, 2012 | Category:
Parents
Parents & Teens:
Do you suffer from anxiety? Here’s something to say to yourself in that moment: ‘Anxiety is not dangerous – it’s just uncomfortable. I am fine; I’ll just continue with what I’m doing or find something more active to do’.
Posted: December 22, 2011 | Category:
Parents,
Teens
Parents:
Sometimes your teen(s) may feel so misunderstood, unhappy and entirely fed up, but, that does not mean they want you to solve everything for them. Sometimes they just need space, time, patience, understanding, empathy, a shoulder to lean on, a chest to cry on, a hug, or maybe even silence. Detach with love – you do not need to control everything all the time.
Parent with Intent!
Posted: December 20, 2011 | Category:
Parents,
Teens
Addiction & Codependency:
When one person in a family is addicted, everyone is affected. Family members who have ignored, denied, justified, and enabled the addict are known as codependent.
Codependency is a serious and debilitating condition that wreaks havoc on the lives of the codependent person and all those around him or her.
Characteristics of Codependents
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Posted: December 16, 2011 | Category:
Parents
Over turning troubled well-practiced behavior is hard for your teen; it’s hard for any one. Now that the pain form their last trouble is over – and they have gotten comfortable again… it’s right back to their low feelings of self worth, disconnected and unattached mentality coupled with their well-rehearsed behaviors. You can remind them of how much money it cost you to bail them out, how awful of a human being you think they are or even attempt to use physical punishment if you so wish… but a person persuaded against their will is of the same persuasion still. I say to you like I say to my marathon training clients – don’t think about the miles you’ve already covered – don’t think about the miles ahead – think about what you’re doing right here, right now. One day at a time.. if need be, one minute at a time.